3.24.2009

Neighborhood Kids Update

In my desperation to help the 2 kids mentioned in the previous post I left out some important information. Sorry guys, it's a little hard to ask for your advice when you don't know all the facts.

The girls are ages 8 and 10
The mom is gone because she works weird hours (at a bar)
I am under the impression that her other kids are supposed to watch these 2
The parenting style next door is very "let them raise themselves"

Thank you all for your wonderful advice, I greatly appreciate it and will let you know what I decide to do.

Ta Ta for now

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11 comments:

{ashley b} said...

oh my goodness. so i am responding to a question you had on my blog, as well as this post...
first, i live in northeastern, az aka: the white mountains. the poppies are down Beeline HWY on your way from mesa to payson. they are so pretty!
and now onto your post.
that is SO sad. i am in a similar situation except the little girl is my husband's 10 year old cousin. she lives a few roads down from us and is here quite frequently. her mom has some pretty serious mental and emotional problems and doesn't do much in the way of cooking or cleaning...all that. Plus her dad was recently put in jail. this has been her life. i am relieved that they live nearby now so i can help to keep an eye on her. she comes and eats meals with us and plays, even bathes and has her clothes washed. in a way i would like for her to move in with us or other family, but i know she still loves her mom and she would probably struggle with that a lot. it's a hard situation. i'm sure moreso with you since these are strangers to you. i would say try to open up your home to them if you're comfortable with that. that way they would maybe feel free to come to you if they need help and you could learn more of their situation. it is so sad that parents let these things happen to their kids. it's really great that you even care about it, i know that a lot of people would just look the other way.

whereismymind said...

Oh my gosh. I have chills. I agree with what Ashley said... ^^^ Take them in as often as they will come... Offer them whatever they need, or include them in whatever you guys are doing. Let them know that they can count on someone (you.) I seriously am upset for them... And for you.

Other than that, I have absolutely NO advice... My mouth is hanging open...

I did once know some kids like this... Their parents worked in bars and the smallest was THREE. It was so sad and my friend, who was their neighbor, completely took them in. The smallest kid, Gabby, became a constant figure in their home. Those parents pretty much just let that poor child live with my friends without batting an eyelash. Or ever really acknowleding it...

The family finally moved and they were so worried for these kids, especially Gabby. The parents, of course, did not keep in touch so they have no idea what became of them. Very sad.

Good luck. I'll think long and hard on this. And ask the Mister... He's always full of very good, very rational advice.

XO

TattooedMinivanMom said...

Definitely call child welfare. Not right. Not right.

♥spoiled mommy♥ said...

oh wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!
8 and 10!!!!!
I wont even leave my 11 year old at home alone and my 14 year old just started leavin her, but for simple things like while i run to the store.
awww man girl, im feeling for ya.

Elena said...

Unbelievable, not only sad for the children but for the single mom struggling to work and raise (?) her children. I would get to know her, if you don't already, and ask her if she needs help because you notice that her children are usually alone when they come by. It's hard to get involved when you don't know the parents, though. If she is not receptive to having a conversation with you, I'd call CPS. Best of luck.

MindyLew said...

I would definately talk to the mother and find out what is going on in her life. I would try to help as much as possible. This is so scary now days - Some crazy people in this world.

Mom24 said...

Again, I'd be as friendly as possible, but I wouldn't hold out hope for CPS. In my experience, they would consider the basics being covered. So sad.

dood1ebugs said...

Is this at your new house or the one you are in now? If its the house you are in now you have to worry about what will happen when you move. Just something else to think about. (like you don't have enough)

kate said...

Oh Liz- wow! This is really hard. It is so sad to see little kids on their own, especially when you are doing everything in your power to make sure your own kids don't ever have to experience that. I would try and find out some more information from the kids about their situation, and if there are any more details that are borderline, then I too, think a call to child services would indeed be appropriate. If the mother isn't doing anything wrong, then child services will see that. If she is, then they will see that as well. If you are this concerned, you need to let a professional come in...I will ask my mom about it too (she's a social worker).

I hope the new home is coming along well and that you are having fun decorating and unpacking (yeah right!). I would be happy to paint something for the kids if you'd like, just let me know! Take care, Kate

Yaya said...

Those poor kids. When I was growing up there was a family of 7 that moved in across the street and they would often leave the 9-yr-old in charge of the younger 5 while the older brother went off doing his own thing. I guess it's just how some families are....

Debbie said...

I think at this age, they should definitely not be left alone. You are in a tough spot. I feel for you.